Before we got married, we sought marriage advice from all the married couples we admired. The advice we received made adjusting to married life easier for us.
During the tough times like when we did not know how to communicate with each other.
We became overwhelmed with everything; the fighting, arguing, blaming each other, stress, etc. However, the advice we received helped us to work together on our struggles.
As a newlywed, it is important you listen to the advice you receive from other married couples. If you do not have any couple to talk to, listen to the First Year Marriage Show podcast.
Even better, get our copy of our First Year of Marriage book to read today.
We created these great resources to help newlyweds build a strong foundation for their marriage.
Best 30 marriage tips and advice to newlyweds
We hope our words of wisdom will help you improve your marriage because it has helped us in many ways.
1. Develop a plan to build a strong foundation for your marriage with your spouse.
This is very critical for your marriage. Without a strong marriage foundation, your marriage could easily end in a divorce.
Spend some time with your spouse and develop a plan to build a strong foundation for your marriage.
2. Learn how to communicate with your spouse.
Communication problems are one of the common issues a lot of married couples face every single day.
So learn how to communicate effectively with your spouse as soon as possible. Without effective communication, you will encounter a lot of problems in your marriage.
Communicating effectively is key to the success of your marriage.
3. Learn from married couples who practice what they teach.
If you hear someone giving good advice to newlyweds, listen.
But make your own decisions, apply what works for you and your marriage.
4. Have reasonable and realistic marriage expectations.
You see, the way you were raised is different from the way your spouse was raised.
What you expect to be the “norm” might not be the “norm” for your spouse. Discuss your marriage expectations, be realistic, and compromise with each other.
And don’t expect your marriage to be like what you see in the movies.
5. Learn how to adjust to each other and married life.
Adjusting to marriage is not going to be easy for every couple. For example, adjusting to your new name change, living in together in the same house, sharing responsibilities, etc. can be a challenging time for couples.
So if you are having difficulty adjusting to married life, read some our articles here.
6. Choose a theme for your family.
A family theme the vision for your marriage and family.
Learn how to choose yours here.
7. Raising children is not easy!
We recommend waiting at least one year to have kids.
8. Trust each other.
You can not have a healthy marriage without trust.
Trusting your spouse is very critical to succeed as a married couple.
9. Divide and conquer your house chores.
Who does what? What other responsibilities do you have to share?
Think about the chores you both love and enjoy doing. Split these chores and do them diligently.
If you both dislike doing a particular chore(s), take turns doing it.
10. Talk about everything.
And anything with your spouse.
11. Memorize this statement:
The First Year is a learning and transitional period for your marriage!
12. The grass is not greener on the other side.
It’s greener where you water it.
13. Be independent and interdependent.
Make time for yourself so you can continue to do the things you are passionate about. Getting married does not mean you can not continue doing the things you love.
Dedicate time to spend with your spouse so you can grow together as a couple.
Choose one thing you can both do to connect and grow together every day. You don’t want to wake up 10 years later and notice you have grown apart.
14. Money matters!
Our best financial advice for newlyweds is to figure out your finances. Talk about your past financial history.
Your student loans, credit card debt, how you will file your taxes and spend your money.
Will you have joint or separate bank accounts? There is no his or her money, the two become one.
15. Commit to your marriage.
Work on your marriage daily.
Never take your spouse for granted, show and let them know you appreciate them. Make sacrifices for each other.
16. Learn to compromise with each other.
17. Learn about your new family.
And how best you can relate with them.
When your spouse has issues with your family members, it best you handle them yourself. You know your family members better than your spouse.
Do not forget to set boundaries in your marriage too.
18. Forgive each other when you make a mistake.
And learn to not repeat the same mistake over and over again. Your spouse can only so much; they have their limits.
19. Celebrate any wins, successes, awards etc. together as a couple.
20. Touch, hug and kiss each other as often as you can.
21. Talk about your financial goals.
Save money for a rainy day.
When making any big purchases like buying a car, discuss it with your spouse first.
And only go ahead to make the purchase if they agree.
22. Resolve your conflicts amicably.
23. We recommend you do not buy a house in your first year of marriage.
Our reason is simply because of the responsibilities that come with owning a house. And the marriage adjustments you have to make as a newlywed.
24. Never fight in public.
It will only make you look …
25. Expect challenges.
Life will hand you some lemons, make the best use of them.
26. Change your vocabulary.
Your I becomes We.
27. Enjoy your newlywed status.
You will not be a newlywed forever. But let your newlywed bliss stay forever in your marriage.
The moment you say “I do” on your wedding day, you and your spouse become blissfully happy and excited about your future.
What happens from that moment onwards will determine how long this bliss will remain. Do not let it fade away for any reason.
The longer this bliss stays in your marriage, and life, the happier you will both be as a married couple.
28. Be proud of your spouse.
If you are not proud of your spouse, why did you get married in the first place?
29. Sex is important and vital.
Schedule it if you are too busy. It will reduce the chances of your marriage becoming sexless.
Oh, don’t forget to mix it up. 😉
30. When you hear the statement “Just because you are newlyweds…,” do not let it discourage.
Or make you think your newlywed bliss will wear off after the first year.
As your marriage grows, it will become better, happier, and more lovely than it was in the beginning. IF you both commit to working on your marriage.
Life is unpredictable!
Even though we received great marriage advice for newlyweds, it did not prevent us from having some really tough times that first year.
These tough times led to us seeking more marriage advice from marriage books, marriage podcasts, radio shows, etc. We highly recommend newly married couples read this list of must-read books for newlyweds.
Our best marriage advice for newlyweds.
Actions speak louder than words!
Learn from the married couples who have awesome, healthy, happy and successful marriages that you want for yours.
Without the marriage advice we received before and after getting married, we would not be where we are today. Our marriage most likely will not be healthy, happy, and fulfilling.
Apply some, if not all of the newlywed advice we have shared today in your marriage. And you will be on your way to having a great marriage.
To all newly married couples, we say congratulations and welcome to married life!
Have fun, enjoy your lifelong companionship, and build the lasting marriage you desire.
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Enjoy your marriage, enjoy your life!
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