Since we got married in 2010, reading marriage books together as a couple has been a great investment for our marriage.
In fact, the marriage books we read helped us to transform our marriage in many ways.
For example, we have been able to communicate better, work on our money issues, learn to love, and respect each other better. In addition, our relationships with friends and family have also benefited.
That being said, we have read (or will be reading) these marriage books together as a couple. Most, if not all of these books are written by top or best-selling marriage book authors like Gary Chapman and John Gottman.
Top 13 best marriage books for couples to read together
Below is a list of the best books on marriage and relationships that we plan to buy and read, or have read.
1. Communication in Marriage: How to Communicate with Your Spouse Without Fighting by Marcus and Ashley Kusi. (We authored this communication in marriage book.)
Do you find it difficult communicating with your spouse? Do you want to feel heard and understood, without fighting again?
If yes, then this book will show you how to communicate with your spouse without fighting. Plus the 7 simple and proven communication steps we use to communicate effectively in our marriage.
2. The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman.
This best-selling book is the must-read marriage book for every couple.
In this book, you will learn about the 5 Love Languages which will help you to know how you give love and how your spouse receives love. You will also be able to improve communication in your marriage.
In fact, this book is the best-selling marriage book which has transformed millions of marriages worldwide.
3. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman and Nan Silver.
Are you looking for the secret to marital success? Well, there is no one secret. However, the seven principles shared in this book can help you to have a more fulfilling marriage.
Based on his studies of thousands of married couples, John Gottman’s book guides you through new approaches to handling conflict and reaching greater levels of intimacy, as well as the pitfalls that crush a marriage.
If you and your spouse have any marriage issues, this book will help you to approach and work through them.
Also, if you and your spouse simply want to know what to avoid to better your relationship, this book is for you!
4. Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs.
Unconditional love is as needed and essential to your wife as much as unconditional respect is essential to your husband. We believe both are universal, but this book gives a unique take on the subject.
As the title suggests, this marriage book is about learning to love and respect your spouse in a healthy way. It talks about the single greatest secret to a successful marriage that helps married and engaged couples to build a great marriage.
When both partners choose to provide unconditional love/respect, the other spouse will be more apt to show love/respect. Thus begins a beautiful cycle of love and communication.
Whether you are using this book for religious reference, or just need a good book to rekindle or save your marriage, Dr. Eggerichs book is probably a great one for your relationship.
Another must-read marriage book for couples.
5. Emotional and Sexual Intimacy in Marriage: How to Connect or Reconnect With Your Spouse, Grow Together, and Strengthen Your Marriage by Marcus and Ashley Kusi.
We authored this book to help couples strengthen intimacy in their marriage. Most books about intimacy focus only on sexual intimacy, while our book focuses on all aspects of intimacy in a marriage.
It’s just shy of 190 inspiring pages and will show you how to connect or reconnect with your spouse. Even if you are busy and stressed out. It even includes a host of questions to ask each other to build better emotional intimacy.
Read this intimacy book if you aren’t sure where to start or what to do, to rekindle intimacy in your marriage.
6. QBQ! The Question Behind the Question: What to Really Ask Yourself to Eliminate Blame by John G. Miller
Although this book is not specific to marriage, the life lessons in this book will enhance any marriage where the principals are applied. This book is about changing your mindset so that you can create better actions and reactions in your life.
Personal accountability is QBQ’s forefront message. We have to be accountable to ourselves before we can be accountable to our spouse.
Are blame and procrastination an issue for you or your marriage? This book may be just the thing to help better your marriage and life.
7. Boundaries in Marriage by Dr. Henry Cloud.
One of many of the “Boundaries” books written by Henry Cloud and John Townsend, this book takes couples through the ten laws of boundaries that every marriage should have and understand.
This marital book takes a different approach than many others do, by encouraging boundaries inside your marriage as well as around it.
For many couples, the old “Two become one” adage can be the source of much distress. We are unique individuals and that does not change once we get married.
Being married does not mean you must follow one person’s way of thinking, nor does it mean you should mold yourself to become someone else.
Being married means you are two separate individuals and must learn how to live in community with each other complimenting one another, not completing.
Boundaries in Marriage has a great point of view on how to get started, and how to maintain boundaries within your marriage and boundaries to protect your marriage.
Struggling to build boundaries in your marriage and with your friends or family? Read this book to learn how to set healthy boundaries for your marriage.
8. Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage: America’s Love Lab Experts Share Their Strategies for Strengthening Your Relationship
More from John Gottman, his wife now joins him in this book based off of their scientific study results of ten different married couples.
This book is designed to help couples work through situations such as affairs, workaholism, parenthood adjustments and lack of intimacy, this book may just be the last thing to help your failing or struggling marriage.
You will learn how to transform your marriage with the 10 marriage lessons shared in this book.
9. Questions for Couples: 469 Thought-Provoking Conversation Starters for Connecting, Building Trust, and Rekindling Intimacy
In this book, you will discover 469 thought-provoking conversation starters for couples.
Fun, engaging, and open-ended questions that will lead to some of the best conversations you have had in a while, bring you closer and really get you learning about each other.
This book will help you when you want to have a meaningful conversation, but don’t necessarily know where to start. Questions for Couples is a must-have pocket-sized book to bring along in your glove box for car rides or keep in your bag for coffee dates.
10. His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage by Willard F. Jr. Harley.
As the title suggests, you learn what the needs of your spouse are and how to satisfy those needs. It will walk you and your spouse through the top ten of each other’s needs; the needs that are vital for a healthy marriage.
This book is designed specifically to help couples prevent extramarital affairs.
11. Men Are Like Waffles – Women Are Like Spaghetti: Understanding and Delighting in Your Differences by Pam Farrel.
You and your spouse will enjoy reading this humorous marriage help book. You will both gain biblical wisdom for your marriage if you are looking for something religious based. It will teach you to keep communicating, relieve stress, be fulfilled in your marriage.
In this book, you will also learn how to appreciate your spouse’s differences, especially if you do not know why they do things in a different way.
12. The Total Money Makeover: Classic Edition: A Proven Plan for Financial Fitness by Dave Ramsey.
Do you struggle with your finances? Not sure about how to pay off your debt or plan for your future?
Get a copy of this book to read today. You will learn Dave’s step by step plan for building or rebuilding your financial life.
13. Passionate Marriage by Dr. David Schnarch
Dr. David Schnarch seeks to give couples the tools to have a deeply passionate marriage through sexual and emotional fulfillment.
In this book, you’ll learn how to remove the blocks that prevent you from total satisfaction and that you will reach it once you have a mature sense of self.
Bonus 1:Our Bucket List Adventures: A Journal for Couples
This bucket list journal for couples will help you both to create bucket list adventures you want to experience together (before you die).
In addition, it has a fun bucket list activity that will get you both excited and enhance intimacy in your marriage. Plus you can record your favorite bucket list memories in it too.
Our Love Story Journal: 138 Questions and Prompts for Couples to Complete Together
If you are looking for a fun way to connect or reconnect with your spouse, then get this book.
Because it will help you and your spouse to reminisce about your love story and all the wonderful memories you’ve shared together as a couple.
Our Gratitude Journal: 52 Weeks of Love, Mindfulness, and Appreciation for Couples
Imagine getting a note every week telling you why your spouse is thankful, appreciative, or loving of YOU?
That’s what Our Gratitude Journal for couples can help you and your spouse do for each other.
Also, it includes gratitude prompts and quotes to help you write what you are grateful for each week.
A note for our list of the best marriage books for couples
This list is not an extensive list of all the best marriage books under the Sun. But rather, a list of great marriage books for couples and anyone interested in marriage.
If you are looking for the best marriage advice books to read with your spouse or to improve your marriage, you will love reading any of the best-selling books listed above.
Even though some are Christian books, you can still learn a ton by reading them. These marriage books provide marriage advice on different marriage issues such as communication, finances, intimacy, sex, etc.
In other words, these books on marriage will definitely provide insights into how you can improve or enhance your marriage. And even though some of them are written primarily for married couples, engaged couples or anyone interested in marriage will enjoy them too.
As a bonus, you can easily apply the marriage lessons you learn from these books to improve other forms of your relationships too.Reading marriage books with your spouse is definitely a great way to connect as a couple.Click To Tweet
Marriage books are some of the best relationship books for couples to read.
Reading marriage books with your spouse is definitely a great way to connect as a couple.
You will also be able to communicate better with your spouse, spice up your sex life, and grow together as a couple. The three things needed for a happy and healthy marriage.
If you are thinking about marriage counseling or therapy, please get some of the books above today. And read them.
You can also check out this list of the best marriage counseling books.
Read at least one marriage book together every year
As part of our family and marriage goals for each year, we read or re-read at least one marriage book together as a couple.
So if you have a reading list, be sure to check out all of the above marriage books for couples and add some to your reading list.
And feel free to share the marriage books you will be reading this year in the comments section.
Whether you are looking for marriage books for men, women, husbands, or wives, you should definitely check out some of the best marriage books from this list.
We will be updating this list as we discover new marriage books for couples.
“The book you don’t read won’t help.” Jim Rohn
What are some of the best marriage books that have helped or transformed your marriage?
Have you read any of the above marriage books for couples? What did you like or not like about them?
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