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newlywed budget

When it comes to creating your first monthly budget as newlyweds, it can easily end up in heated arguments and unnecessary fights.

That’s why today, we want to help you create a monthly budget that not only works for your marriage but one you can both stick to.

Note: This article is an excerpt taken from our book, First Year of Marriage: The Newlywed’s Guide to Building a Strong Foundation and Adjusting to Married Life.

Why you need a monthly budget

As a newly married couple, it is essential you create a budget that will help you and your spouse to achieve your financial goals.

Even if you don’t combine your finances (we recommend you do), creating a budget for your money is highly recommended.

A budget will help you to direct where your money goes, and how you spend it before it disappears.

To know where, how, when, and what we spend our money on, are some of the important reasons why we decided to create a monthly budget after getting married.

Benefits of creating a monthly budget

By doing a budget and agreeing on your finances together, you will connect with each other in ways you never imagined.

The process of coming up with a budget and agreeing on finances with your spouse sets you up to work together towards your financial goals.

In addition, it will open lines of communication that would not be there otherwise and strengthen intimacy in your marriage.

Being united with your finances will help you build a strong foundation for your marriage and help you grow together!

A monthly budget will help you to:

» Improve your communication skills about money.

» Be on the same page financially.

» Set financial goals and achieve them together.

» Identify areas where you are not using your money wisely.

» Become financially disciplined.

» Reduces the chances of having money fights.

» Reduces money stress, achieve financial goals by helping you to stay focused.

» Plan ahead.

» And grow together in your marriage.

The above list is not all of the benefits a budget will provide for your marriage.

Depending on your marriage and family, some of the benefits will be direct or indirect.

A sample list of monthly expenses for a newlywed’s budget will include:

» Home: Rent, mortgage bills etc.

» Food: Groceries, lunches, eating out for dinner etc.

» Utilities: Electric, heat, water, telephone etc.

» Health: Health insurance, gym, prescriptions, co-pays etc.

» Education: College expenses,  tuition, books, supplies etc.

» Personal money.

» Investments, savings, retirement accounts, 401K, IRA etc.

» Entertainment: Netflix, movies etc.

» Debt: Student loans, credit cards. car payment etc.

» Miscellaneous. Unexpected events that will happen during the month.

» Transportation: gas, car loans, oil change, tire rotations, general car maintenance, insurance, inspections etc.

Use this list of expenses as a starting point because your monthly expenses could be completely different from it.

How to create a monthly budget after marriage in 8 simple steps

Step 1

Sit down with open minds and begin the process of doing your monthly budget.

Discuss why you need a budget for your marriage or family and the benefits of having one.

Talk about something fun that you want to do and your end goal. This is where being debt free, buying a house, traveling, and retiring early comes in.

Step 2

Identify all your sources of income for the month, whether it’s from working full time, a part-time business, donations, etc.

Step 3

First, write down everything that needs to be paid or bought during the month in order of importance (your monthly expenses.)

Make sure you include everything you both need for a month. Don’t forget to add savings!

Then write down what you would do with any extra cash that might be left over, like saving up for your next vacation, paying off student loans, credit cards, mortgage, etc.

Finally, if you realize your expenses exceed the income you earn each month, you can eliminate some of your expenses so you have a balanced budget.

Or you can start a side business to earn more money. Having more than one source of income is always a great thing.

Step 4

Agree or compromise on every item on your budget.

This is where your patience, empathetic listening, and communication skills will come in handy.

Your first monthly budget meeting will probably be the hardest and longest. After that, it will get easier.

Step 5

If you decide to have personal spending money, take it out in cash so you don’t overspend.

It is helpful to use cash only at first to help you stay in budget.

When the cash envelope is empty, you know you are done spending for that month. Obviously, with bills you pay online, you can use a check or debit card.

Step 6

Know that your budget won’t be perfect every month.

We all make mistakes. We can only try better next time and keep it a priority.

Step 7

Have a check-up, visual aid, or budgeting app so you can both see where you are throughout the month.

We would suggest every week you go over what is paid and what isn’t paid yet during the beginning of that week. After you get the hang of it, you can check in every two weeks or as needed.

By having this visual aid, your children will learn how to create their own budgets when they begin to earn some income.

We keep a white board right in our kitchen so we can both see where we are at on any given day.

Step 8

The next month, use the same budget plan and adjust where necessary.

Maybe you need more for one column, less for another, or a whole new column for an event in the next month.

For example, an upcoming birthday, wedding, or holiday which will require some extra money.

Budgeting together was not easy for us

When we started budgeting in our first year of marriage, it was not easy or fun. In fact, we struggled to stick to our budget plan because we had other expenses show up all the time.

However, we committed to making it work.

After a few months of budgeting, we were able to create a monthly budget that has been working for us using the exact steps above.

We now budget every single month and make adjustments as needed. Creating a monthly budget certainly impacted our marriage in many ways. And we believe it will do the same for your marriage too.

Budgeting tips for newlyweds

When you are creating your budget together, make sure you practice empathetic listening so you can understand each other’s budget needs.

Remember, you both have an equal say in everything that goes on your budget.

In addition, you will both have to learn to compromise. Your spouse might want item X in the budget but you might not agree item X should be included in the budget or allotted such an amount.

Before you make a decision, you first need to put yourself in their shoes to understand why they believe they need the item or have that much money put towards something.

Keep this in mind:

Your budget will change over time because life is unpredictable. Alterations to your education, career, and income will all affect your ever-changing budget.

How to stick to your monthly budget as a newly married couple

Creating a monthly budget after marriage is simple. But sticking to it is another thing.

First, discuss and write it down 5 days prior to the start date for your budget.

Then schedule a day and time to review your budget together each week. This will help you track and see how you are spending your money, so you can make any adjustments if needed.

This also encourages you to become accountable to one another.

Second, start your budget on the first day of each month.

Why? Because it will be easier to remember to do it every month. Tracking your expenses and income each month will be easy too.

Lastly, sticking to a budget is not easy, especially in the first few months after starting. So commit to doing a monthly budget for at least 3 months.

Should you combine your money?

In our experience, combining bank accounts has had positive results for our marriage.

It has forced us to have some important and difficult money conversations. We would not have had these conversations if our finances were not combined. In addition, our communication with each other has improved immensely.

As a result, we recommend couples combine their finances.

By combining accounts all your money stays together. It helps you to both be on the same page. Your money is no longer just mine but ours. Remember, your personal money to spend should be separate from this account or kept in cash on you.

We know that combining finances might not work for every couple. Do what is best for your marriage.

For example, an exception to combining money is if your spouse has a gambling or other addiction problem that negatively impacts your marriage; or you happen to be one of the few couples that keeping your money separate works well for.

Even if you do not combine your money, it is still very important to budget together.

Budgeting tools and resources to help you get started

Below are 10 free and paid budgeting software, worksheets, a budgeting guide, and apps to help you get started on creating a monthly budget.

Disclaimer:

You are solely responsible for using any of the software or apps. We are not liable for any losses or damages you experience by using them.

» Mint

» Dave Ramsey’s Zero-based budget software calculator

» Microsoft Money Plus Sunset Deluxe

» Budget Pulse

» Ace Money Lite

» Family Financial Network

» Apps for iPhone and Ipad

» Toshl Finance

» You Need A Budget

You can also use regular envelopes for each item on your monthly budget list. Each envelope should be for a specific item in your budget.

All you need to do is fill up with the amount of money allocated to it. Once the money runs out it means you should not make any purchases related to that envelope for the rest of the month.

Once the money runs out it means you should not make any purchases related to that envelope for the rest of the month.

Final thoughts

Marriage and finances go hand in hand!

Your finances can make or break your marriage. Never keep financial secrets hoping to reveal it later; it will not make things better.

Don’t complicate things when it comes to creating your monthly budget. Keep it simple. And stick to it.

Tell your money where and when to go, not the other way round.

Your turn

Do you have a monthly budget? How did you create it with your spouse?

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P.S. Want to build a strong foundation for your marriage? Read this book today.

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