Do kids spell love T-I-M-E?
This past week our daughter just proved to me again why kids spell love time. And why every parent needs to spend quality time with their children.
I was introduced to this parenting advice by my mentor, Zig Ziglar.
Ever since we heard about this simple but profound statement, it has been some of the best advice we have practiced since the birth of our first daughter.
In fact, we carve out time to spend with all our children everyday. It has already yielded great results for us especially in achieving our goal of having and nurturing our peaceful family.
Kids spell love T-I-M-E.
One evening I arrived home from a hectic day of college classes, working as an IT technician, and running some family errands, hugged and kissed my wife and daughter.
Even though I was tired, l realized my daughter just wanted to spend time with me talking. Whenever l left her to do something she would begin making sounds (not quite using words yet at that point) letting me know she needs some T-I-M-E with me.
After our dinner, my wife began playing with her, but my daughter stopped just to be closer to me since l had been away all day.
Her whole demeanor changes when she gets the full attention and closeness from each of us.
She is more independent and relaxed when she knows we are here for her whenever she needs us; our daughter has definitely showed us kids spell love T-I-M-E.
Now that both our daughters are older, they use their words to ask us to spend time with them. Sometimes it helps them reset after an emotional meltdown, other times it helps prevent one.
Each child has their own love language, much like adults. Figuring out what will fill your child’s love tank by spending time with them is a sure way to make sure your child feels grounded and secure in your relationship as parent and child.
We now both stay home with our children full time and take turns working from home. This has helped our relationship with each other, as well as our relationship with our daughter’s. This way, when one of us is getting burnt out, we can switch off. Our children always have one of us to meet their needs and help them navigate the difficult emotions that overwhelm their developing brains and help them become empathetic, well rounded individuals.
Giving your kids your time, shows them that you love them no matter what. No parent is perfect, we all make mistakes, but coming back to your child and letting them know they can always count on you to be there does a world of good in setting up a secure attachment for them.
The more secure they feel in their attachment to you, the more confident they will become and able to be independent.
Even if you both have to work, be intentional with the time you do have with your children. Make the most of the little moments you can share over dinner, before bedtime, or whatever works for you.
We know this may not be easy for some parents.
But you can start by trying to give just ten minutes of uninterrupted time, and attention with your children.
You will see what a difference it creates; to a child love is spelled T-I-M-E.
“For a child, love is spelled T-I-M-E.” Zig Ziglar
How do you spend quality time with your children?
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