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preparing for marriagePreparing for marriage can easily be overlooked by the plans you have for your wedding day.

You will probably spend more money and time preparing for your wedding day than actually preparing for your marriage.

We believe if you spent half of the time spent on preparing for your wedding day on preparing for your marriage, you will be well prepared to build a lasting marriage.

That’s why we wrote this First Year of Marriage book to help newlyweds and engaged couples build a strong foundation for their marriage.

Failure to adequately prepare for marriage could lead to an unhappy marriage or an early divorce.

Spend time preparing for your marriage!

It’s the best thing you can do for your marriage. At the very least, you will learn:

⇒ About communication in marriage and how to communicate with your spouse.

⇒ How to adjust to married life.

⇒ How to clarify your marriage expectations.

How to agree on money, pay the bills, set financial goals, create a family budget, etc

⇒ How to resolve conflicts, arguments, and compromise with your spouse.

⇒ How to assess your differences on various issues like sex, finances, parenting, politics, etc.

⇒ How to set marriage and family goals.

⇒ How to prepare for the marriage challenges that lay ahead; as soon as possible.

How to dream together as a couple.

How to appreciate each other.

And other great things that have helped many couples to have great marriages.

If you have a healthy and  happy marriage, your children will benefit immensely from it. Your marriage plays a big impact on your parenting. Children learn a lot from their parents.

10 Preparation tips for engaged couples and newlyweds.

If you were to ask us for advice towards preparation for your marriage, below are 10 preparation tips we will tell you:

1) Marriage is hard work, but it is worth it.

You may not be able to see any problems in your future. But the hard times will come. It could even start with something as simple as changing your name after marriage.

However, you must stick together, and figure out how to work through these times.

2) You will have a lot of personal growth to go through.

Look inward before pointing the finger.

3) Your spouse may not understand what you think they should.

Learning how to communicate is key for a healthy, happy, and lasting marriage!

4) You are going to have to be on the same page with everything from finances to raising children to sex.

Might as well start these conversations now!

5) You will both evolve as a person in your opinions, and beliefs.

So keep the conversation going and share the experience together so you won’t grow apart.

6) Remember, your spouse has the best intentions for you.

7) Don’t forget to keep an open mind and be flexible.

8) Learn each other’s love language, and then learn to speak it. If both spouses put each other first, it’s a win win.

9) Make your relationship the priority. Keep safe boundaries as a hedge around it from people and activities that could harm it.

10) Build your friendship, dream and have fun together. Your spouse should be your best friend.

The longer you are married, the deeper that friendship should grow.

One of our loyal readers, Chris’s advice for couples preparing for marriage is this:

 “It is important to always try to look at things from both sides. Compromise is key, and never be afraid to apologize.”

These 10 things are a great way to open your mind to the changes, adjustments, and challenges that will occur in your marriage.

Invest time, money, or other resources in preparing for marriage to increase your chances of having a lasting marriage.

We encourage you to visit this first year of marriage tips page. It’s the best resource we have for engaged couples and newlyweds.

What we did in preparation for our marriage.

Before we got married, we had a pre-marriage conversation with a great married couple whose marriage we admired.

We also bought this workbook, Before You Say “I Do” by H Norman Wright and did all the sessions together.

In addition to reading The Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey. Dave’s book enabled both of us to be on the same page with our finances.

These two books helped us to prepare for marriage in many areas. Some of the areas include communication, setting marriage goals, deciding on the kind of things we needed as a family, revealing our financial history, debt, past family issues, and discussing everything.

Yes, we mean everything.

As a result, we always recommend engaged and married couples to read some of the best marriage books that have impacted many marriages.

Although these are the main things we did while preparing for marriage, we highly recommend you go a step further than us when preparing for your marriage.

Taking a marriage prep class or marriage preparation course online will definitely be a big plus for you.

Some ideas on how to prepare for marriage.

Knowing how to prepare for marriage is completely different from preparing for a wedding.

If you plan for vacations, a date night, Halloween, sporting events, etc. why not plan for your marriage?

The good news is that there are many resources that can help you; most will not cost you an arm and leg.

For the cost of a wedding cake or even less, you and your future spouse could become well prepared for marriage.

Simply read a premarital counseling book, or take marriage prep class to prepare for your marriage.

Plan for your marriage more than your wedding day, trust us, you will not regret it.

So how do you prepare for marriage?

Below are six ideas on how to prepare for marriage:

1. Schedule a date and time to have a pre-marriage conversation with one or two married couples you admire.

2. Find pre-marital counseling books that you both like and go through all the sections with your future spouse.

3. Attend a pre-marriage seminar, conference, or workshop.

4. You can schedule a pre-marriage counseling session with a pastor or a pre-marriage coaching session with a marriage coach.

5. You can take a marriage preparation course online at your own pace and in the comfort of your home.

6. Check your local community for marriage prep classes too.

“Failing to plan, is planning to fail.” Benjamin Franklin

Lastly, check out these books we highly recommend for your marriage preparation.

And read our best articles for couples in their first year of marriage.

Remember to respect and love your spouse.

There is no need to let past mistakes hang over your heads. So bring them up during your preparation for marriage.

Even when disagreeing, you can learn to be respectful. Apply the golden rule and treat your spouse how you want to be treated.

Be respectful in the way you speak to, and about your him/her. Be respectful about what you share of your relationship.

There is always something new to learn, something to improve, and somewhere to grow; so be on the lookout.

Continue to grow as a person both independently, and together as a couple.

After you say “I do”, you become a unit, but you are also unique individuals.

Take personal responsibility for your actions, feelings, and let your spouse do the same. Be supportive but don’t enable bad behaviors or attitudes.

Simply do your best to prepare well for your marriage.

Your turn:

What did you do to prepare for marriage?

What advice will you give to couples preparing for marriage?

Do you agree that preparation for marriage should be something all couples must do before getting married?

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P.S. Want to build a strong foundation for your marriage? Read this book today.

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